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When Perfect meets Procrastinate

Topic: The pain of perfection
Archetype(s):
#1 The Seeker, #4 The See-Saw, #7 The Hustler, #10 The Yo-Yo, #13 The Hope Warrior, #16 The Perfectionist, #19 The Fidgeter, #22 The Doubter, #25 The Inspired
Experience of life:
Everything is perfect as it is, unless unworthiness leads the way. We often find ourselves lost in the relentless pursuit of flawlessness. This becomes draining and exhausting over time. Perfectionism whispers as procrastination, resistance, and stagnation, weaving loneliness into the journey. Yet, within us all lies the power to turn this path of hardship into one of ease and grace.

From personal experience, I have this theory that the Swiss invented perfectionism. Inheritance has given me the privilege of a Swiss passport and despite having this little red book that allows me into places with ease, it also came with the relentless pursuit of perfection.

What I discovered is that no matter how much I tried to get things lined up just right, in the perfect order, and at precisely the right time; things would inevitable decide to go their own way and do their own thing. It became exhausting and frustrating when I tried to get my ducks in a row, only to find that I have squirrels and they’re at a rave 🙂

Perfectionism is not a quest for the best. It is a pursuit of the worst in ourselves, the part that tells us that nothing we do will ever be good enough – that we should try again. – Julia Cameron

It was also challenging at school and achieving what I thought would be the perfect results and would no doubt please the parents, only to find out that I can never meet their expectations. So I gave up on the expectations I had for myself and instead I wandered into the lonely lands of procrastination, resistance, and denial. It has been a long, hard road to find my way out, through forgiving myself for all I mistakenly thought was imperfect within me and in my life.

Procrastination is the bad habit of putting off until the day after tomorrow what should have been done the day before yesterday. – Napoleon Hill

The moment when I realised that everything is perfect as it is – in divine, right order – it was as if my soul breathed a sigh of relief. I have never looked back and regularly hang out with my squirrels at their rave!

Perfect meets Procrastinate is not happily ever after. Its a painful recipe for disaster.

 

 

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Sibylle Stehli

I have experienced chaos to a degree that would break most people. Suicidal depression, health challenges, an abusive marriage and bankruptcy catalysed me to disrupt the built-up chaos of my life. In doing so, I overcame my circumstances and now direct my life from a place of deep compassion for all.
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Allison Wentworth Ross

Perfectionism. Such a powerful topic and a beautiful perspective. Thank you!

I am currently on the receiving end of not measuring up to the perfectionism of a loved one. And having to accept the divine order of their journey with love, compassion, and boundaries.