Sovereignty
This is a word I often pronounce and spell incorrectly. When I hear this word, it reminds me of being King or Queen. So what does it look like to be Royal King or Queen? Is it that their word overrules all, commanding laws without question? Perhaps it is because they have subjects, and their decisions are divinely guided in the best interest and are there to protect the realm. Reverence is given to them as a sovereign in that they are thought to be the bridge between God and the people.
It might sound very far-reaching for an ordinary person or perhaps not if we look at it this way.
So if being sovereign means self-governing, autonomous, and keeping our authentic individual stripes, then that doesn’t sound too difficult, does it?
How do we become kings and queens in a partnership or in a marriage? How do we become sovereign alongside each other and remain our individual beings too. When we collaborate, we want to contribute while also ensuring that our authentic light is not dimmed by the other.
What causes a dissolution of a partnership or relationship? Perhaps it is when one person reveres themselves as sovereign and, in their eyes, treats the other or others as servants or subjects to do their bidding and follow their decrees and wishes to make their life better, easier, and happier at the expense of the subject/servant.
What is the way forward to be sovereign, and authentic in this modern day? How do we be Kings and Queens of our realm?
- Claiming authority and power (not over other subjects) but over our own thoughts, actions, and emotions.
- Clearly defining and setting our boundaries by protecting our personal space, energy, and time.
- Nurturing trust with our own inner guidance so that our inner thoughts and beliefs guide our next steps.
- Harmonious collaboration where differences are respected and synergistic partnership is encouraged.
- Work towards our higher vision, while supporting and respecting another’s higher vision.
- Respect each other. No one is our subject that we look down upon, control, or manipulate.
That said, let’s be our own sovereign self-agents. Put on our golden crowns and decree upon ourselves that we are autonomous rulers of our own journey, harmoniously waving at the other King and Queen shining alongside us in their carriage and in this royal procession called life.
I love how you have highlighted sovereignty as a level in a hierarchy, Amor. Challenges creep into partnerships when there is a conscious or unconscious feeling of superiority, entitlement, or ownership. It is something for all of us to be mindful of: how do we practice humble sovereignty?
Yes, and sovereignty is neither unreachable nor something to be feared. It’s also important to note that it is our own self that we govern, not other subjects.
I love the image of partners as co-rulers, each wearing their own crown while harmoniously waving at each other. It nicely captures the delicate balance of maintaining our individuality while still nurturing a loving partnership. Your six points for personal sovereignty serve as a gentle reminder that true love doesn’t diminish our light but allows it to shine brighter alongside our partner’s. Thank you for this inspiring perspective, Amor.
Thank you Ian. Yes let us put on our sovereign crowns and nurture loving partnerships and collaboration.
Inter-dependence is key!
Yes “True interdependence thrives when sovereign souls, fully embracing their own power, come together to create something greater than they could alone.”