Most people aren’t mind readers

Have the courage to say what you need in the moment. Most people aren’t mind readers.

This powerful insight from Jada Pinkett Smith serves as a reminder of the importance of open communication in our lives. It’s all too easy to fall into the trap of thinking that others should just know what we need, especially when we’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed. We often assume that those around us will pick up on our cues and offer help, but that’s rarely the case.

The Reality Check: Two Outcomes

When you finally muster the courage to express your needs, two things can happen:

1. You get what you need. This is, of course, the ideal outcome. When you articulate your needs, you create an opportunity for others to step in and provide the support you’re looking for. Whether it’s emotional support from a friend, assistance with a project at work, or help managing your time, asking for what you need opens the door to collaboration and connection.
2. You realize the limitations of your source. If the person you turn to is unable to help, it can be disheartening. However, this realization is also a gift. It helps you understand the dynamics of your relationships and the capacities of those around you. It can guide you in seeking support from the right sources in the future, ultimately strengthening your connections.

The Struggle for Independence

How often do you find yourself trying to handle everything on your own? We live in a culture that often celebrates self-sufficiency and independence, which can lead to the belief that asking for help is a sign of weakness. Yet, in truth, it takes immense strength to acknowledge our limitations and seek support. No one is brilliant at everything, and recognizing that we all have different strengths is essential.

Support as a Two-Way Street

Getting help from others isn’t just about you; it’s also about allowing others to engage and contribute. When you ask for support, you create a space for connection and shared experiences. People often feel honoured when they can help, and it fosters a sense of community and belonging.

Embrace Vulnerability

Speaking up about your needs is an act of vulnerability, and vulnerability is not a weakness. It’s an invitation for deeper relationships and a more authentic life. Embracing this can lead to personal growth and stronger bonds with others.

So, the next time you find yourself feeling frustrated or unsupported, pause for a moment. Ask yourself: Have I clearly communicated what I need? Remember, the courage to express your needs can lead to valuable insights and connections, making both you and your relationships stronger in the process.

Let’s redefine what it means to be strong—by recognizing that seeking help is not just okay; it’s essential.  If you need any help, please ask, if I can’t help, I’m sure I’ll know someone who can.